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All In - Risk In Writing
30 June 2008This posting is a guest post by Gina Cacace. Her writings, artwork, and musings on life can be found at GinaCacace.com.
I’ve been reading Laraine Herring’s Writing Begins With the Breath (Shambhala Publications*). It has a really interesting approach to creating an authentic writing voice. Herring uses yoga postures and an awareness of the breath to help the writer access the part of the self that is usually guarded by our inner critic. Her first chapter is on risk in writing. She explains that most writers guard themselves in their works, “The writer tries to play it safe, tries to couch what he’s doing in layers of deep, and often beautifully phrased crap. The reader spots this right away…” But that through surrendering ourselves to our experiences, we can become more honest and compelling writers.
I very rarely take any risk in my writing. My memoirs normally adopt a sarcastic tone in order to downplay the importance of events. In fiction, I have created numerous middle aged male narrators, whose voices are usually comedic but distant. In an effort to tap into a more authentic voice, I created a female narrator in her twenties who was struggling to write a story (very much like myself). The result is the short fiction piece All In.
Any writer that shares their work understands that most people will confuse the narrator with the author. This can be frustrating, especially when we’ve worked so hard to create an interesting and complex character. But we can’t deny the little bits of ourselves that we invest into our characters (and that is where risk comes in–the more you are willing to invest, the more alive your story becomes, but also the more susceptible you are to be judged). Most readers will understand that if the story was purely autobiographical, the writer would have labeled it a memoir (as a side note, what is wrong with people who keep releasing fabricated memoirs? Why don’t they just call it fiction and avoid all of this?).
This is not to say that we can only write narrators that share our same demographic information. We all know that there is something that resonates beyond age/sex/location in a story. But to get to that point, we have to admit that if the story we write is our story then we’ll be closer to the characters and the result will be more powerful.
My hope is that the parts of myself I invested into my narrator, Rea, will make her believable. I also hope that readers will understand that she has certain exaggerated traits that make her distinct from me. It is a relatively simple story about self-realization and the confusion of college. Sharing this story is the most important part of the process (although believe me, writing it was difficult enough) so I’d love to have some feedback.
Thanks!
Gina
*For anyone who isn’t familiar with Shambhala Publications, they’re the ones that published Natalie Goldberg’s Writing Down the Bones, another essential tool for supporting your creativity.
Did my post help you? Buy me a coffee?Overall thoughts on dental phobia
1 February 2007Though, as you all have read, I am in the middle of a series of dental procedures. I would still classify myself as a dental-phobe. I thought I would try to outline the main fears *I* have, and how I’ve overcome them, in the hopes that I might inspire someone else to do the same. In all my articles, I have a feeling that if I can help just one person make that initial decision to change their lives, I have succeeded.
Needles
The first, and the most powerful phobia, for me. I realistically know that the next fear, Pain, will not be an issue if I am given a needle. My fear of needles, however, prevents me from feeling any better about all of that. I have read numerous articles on where and why we fear needles. It has been said that many of the greatest thinkers have had a phobia of injections. At least we’re all in good company.
It’s not the pain involved in getting a needle that is bothersome to me, its actually the mental idea of having a piece of metal pierce my skin and enter in to my vein (or anything else). In fact, as I typed that, I felt a slight twinge to protect my arms. I imagine it is only natural, as any smart creature on earth would try to prevent itself from being stabbed. I wonder if there is some truth to the idea of intelligence causing a fear of hypodermics. Is it something in our brain that tells us its ‘just not right’?
The way I, personally, overcame my fear of needles was….by not overcoming it at all. I asked the dentist to tell me when he would give me the shot, he kept it out of my sight, and I closed my eyes when he did it. Honestly, it wasn’t comfortable. HOWEVER, I would say a simple banging of ones hand on a desk is 100% more painful than any of my needles ever were.
Pain
This is not a personal fear of mine, but I imagine it to be a fear of many. The fear of pain. If you are not afraid of needles, you should put this fear to rest. Once given a shot to numb your mouth, you should *not* feel anything. If you do, give a yell, and ask for another shot. That’s it. The entire procedure should, and if done right would, be painless.
Nausea
I have, at times, suffered from this. The idea that you will be sick and vomit. It’s not just with dentists that I have had this feeling, its creeped in to many other parts of my life. For instance, in a crowded car where I’m sitting in the middle of the backseat with a person on either side. There was a time when I would get myself so nervous about the prospects of being sick, that I would actually begin to feel sick. Ridiculous, isn’t it?
The way I overcame all this was by insuring that previous to my dental appointment I hadn’t eaten in well over 12 hours. I had no breakfast (I had a morning appt) and my last meal was dinner the night before. Just keep reminding yourself that since you haven’t eaten, you can’t be sick, and you will feel much better.
Loss of control
This is a personal phobia of mine as well. I have used it to my advantage, though, in my abstaining from alcohol and other mind-altering substances. It does, at times, cause a problem though. I have a fear that if I’m gassed or put under, I will say or do things that will make me look foolish. It’s pretty stupid, if you think about it. Nonetheless, I do fear it, and I do avoid it.
The way to overcome this is simply to not lose control. Ask the dentist if you can put the mask with the nitrous on your own face. You will put it on when YOU feel ready, no one is gassing you, you’re just controlling your own anxiety and level of pain.
Reprimand
This fear I personally did not suffer from as my teeth were not in any way damaged from my time away. However, I know that many people fear they will be the “worst case ever seen”, and suffer from a phobia of the dentist literally calling in colleagues to come take a look at the mess you are. The truth is, no dentist worth his salt would ever do such a thing. He will try to minimize your problem, and put you at ease. The reasons are simple. You have obviously stayed away from dentists for a reason. A kind dentist does not want to keep you away any longer, he wants you to come back and get your problems solved, he wants you to feel at ease. A savvy dentist doesn’t want to see a customer not return.
Think of it this way. If you had no problems the dentist would have no job. He counts on you not having perfect teeth to keep his business running, just as a doctor counts on illness and a lawyer counts on criminals. You can be guaranteed that you are NOT the worst case he has ever seen. When he was practicing, he practiced dental procedures on cadavers. CADAVERS. He worked on DEAD PEOPLE’S MOUTHES. You are NOT going to disgust him.
In conclusion
You might consider keeping a journal just as I have, as you progress through your appointments and procedures. It helps you to think outside of yourself, to the people who will read your fears, and how you overcame them, just as you have read mine. You, the reader, helped me get through. I hope I have done the same for you. If you need someone to talk about your problems with, be sure to drop me a line at andrew [at] leahey.org. I will answer all emails.
A site I found useful in overcoming my fear is DentalFearCentral.org. Be sure to check them out.
Read about MY journey through dental phobia in Phase 1 of my on-going journal.l
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1 February 2007First off, let me start by apologizing for my long-hiatus. I’ve been busy overcoming some personal phobias and furthering various portions of my personal life.
Still, I shouldn’t have neglected this site for so long.
Look for a new section, Overcoming Phobia, chronicling in part my personal struggle with ‘dental phobia’. As always, comments welcomed.
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